You’re the parent of a young baby. Maybe they’ve been sleeping the past six weeks without a problem, then not. Maybe you haven’t had more than two hours’ sleep yourself since the day you brought them home. You’re exhausted! What do you do to settle baby?
There are so many resources available on the internet, but many of them are conflicting. Infant welfare nurse Jan Murray knows all about this scenario.
As a grandmother, it’s easy to want to step in and take over with a “this is what you do” approach and come and take over, but that’s not the best thing to do. Much has changed in our world in the last 20-30 years, the way we live is fundamentally different, and that has an effect on our babies as well.
Show Notes – Settling Baby
- the atmosphere there. Environmental factors can affect settling baby, as can anxiety in the parents. Jan collects a history of when and how the baby was born, and what the parents been doing so far to help. Sometimes the problem is a missing medical diagnosis.
- Some babies find it hard to settle because of being so busy! When mothers are very active before birth (as so many need to be) babies come out wanting to stay “busy”, and find it hard to settle. Mothers, too, can find it hard to adjust to a slower routine. When mothers themselves find it hard to settle, the anxiety passes on to the baby. This is not a condemnation, but an awareness of fact.
- Modern families also have a lot of stimulation. Flashing lights on monitors, TV. Even getting in and out of the car multiple times per day. Babies don’t adjust to changes like these as easily as adults do, making them agitated and harder to settle.
- A settling plan will be different for everybody. Jan assesses for anxiety or depression, and gets the parents to seek help if there is. She’s also careful to create a plan that parents think they can do, not something they don’t feel capable of. Sometimes it’s less noise, need to start solid foods, less time in the car. It’s never a one-size-fits-all approach.
- Often it takes a professional to connect the dots on the reasons for an unsettled baby. The Parenting Centre, child health nurses, or a professional like Jan, are great resources. Don’t just read the books, but stop and listen to that still small voice inside. Trust your gut.
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