How do you go using your mother’s intuition? It’s not really something that’s “taught”. But there is so much to learn!
Cecily Paterson already had a small daughter when her second child, a son, was born. It didn’t take long for her to notice the differences between her two children. Her mother’s intuition–that universal sense of “trust your gut” that so many of us have learned to listen to–told her something was not right. Life for her son, it seemed, was incredibly difficult. Finally, at the age of three he was diagnosed with autism.
Cecily was confident that after a diagnosis they would be able to get on with things, and get treatment. But unfortunately that wasn’t the case. She wrote about the five years that followed that in her book, “Love Tears and Autism”, a memoir about life parenting a special needs child.
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Show Notes – Mother’s Intuition with Cecily Paterson
- Parenting a child who’s living with overwhelming difficulties is a big challenge. Cecily found there wasn’t much of a place for parents like her to talk those complex issues.
- People would very kindly shut Cecily down whenever she had concerns. People’s comments sounded kind, but had the effect of closing off any further conversation, which left Cecily feeling unsupported.
- Cecily says that the best thing that you could do for someone in her situation is listen to their concerns and help them figure out answers. Don’t deny there’s a problem, or shut things down with “God will help you” or “it’ll be okay”.
- We can be so scared of negative experiences in our own lives that we’re not willing to face them, and therefore not willing to face them with other people.
- Listening is such an important skill for us all to develop. Cecily readily admits that, until she faced such difficulties herself, she too would have minimised everyone’s problems without even realising it.
- It’s important to find people who can simply be with you, hold the space with you, allow you to talk, simply “be”.
- While suffering and difficult times are so painful, they’re events that make us better people, more able to respond in love and care for others in need.
- When you’re going through tough times it’s not the end, just part of the journey. Things can get better, and you can learn better ways to manage, which can have a cumulative effect over time. As we grow and mature our attitudes and ability to cope change over time too. However, these growth times are conscious choices, they don’t happen automatically.
- Love, Tears and Autism–and Cecily’s other books–are available from Koorong, Cecily’s website, or online booksellers.
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