[Scott] It’s Treasuring Mothers. Good morning Jenny, how are you going?
[Jenny] Good morning Scott, good morning Jason.
[Scott] Hey, what are we talking about today?
[Jenny] Well, I just thought it would be good to talk about what happens when you get really, really, really tired. And as a mother that’s a bit of a disaster.
[Jason] Yeah. I learned that as a kid.
[Scott] It can easily happen. I mean I’ve seen, I’ve seen my wife to the point where she’s just, she can hardly walk, you know. And it’s a matter of actually making sure that you don’t get to that point isn’t it?
[Jenny] Well, a lot of the time it is but sometimes you just have crazy weeks. I remember one week, or two weeks, when I had five kids at school, I was working, and I had lots of extra things outside of school, as well as during the work day. And I got to a Saturday and I just crashed. It was just, I couldn’t do anything else. It was actually quite frustrating because we had a busy day planned but I just had to slow down. I’ve discovered though that when you go through those sorts of times you feel a bit flat and down. And it’s so frustrating having to stop but sometimes you just do need to pace yourself, and take the time out to let your family look after you a little bit. Because you’ve got to remember that being a mother is not a sprint. It’s a marathon.
[Scott] It’s really easy at that point too. You know for me as a dad but when I’m exhausted, and you just start feeling like a failure. Like, you’re letting everybody down, that you’re not doing what you need to be doing. It’s not the case at all is it?
[Jenny] No, no that’s right. Because, as I said before, you’ve got to pace yourself. So that means, if you’re looking at this as a 20-year journey, then how do you make this week count. And how do you prepare yourself for what’s coming? And so, slowing down. Letting, as I said, letting your family look after you. Re-scheduling what’s going to be happening for the day, so you can just make some space in your day and taking time to go and have a hot shower, or a bath, nap in the afternoon. You will feel quite flat, and I am a testament to that. I go down. But it’s part of the recharging your batteries is to go through that process. So the next day you get back on the horse and you can go off again.
[Jason] One of the hard parts, as well, especially for mums overnight… One of the kids gets up during the night feeling sick, blood nose on the bed, those sorts of things. And then you go back to bed, can’t get back to sleep, get up in the morning, and then it’s like the whole day going, “Why can’t I function?”.
[Scott] And you’ve still got to do everything that you need to do.
[Jason] You still need to do everything! And I think one of the keys there, isn’t it Jenny, is just to go, “Alright, we realise last night we had an actual thing [terrible night of waking kids] we didn’t have that planned. Where can I get that extra rest?” Or understand it. And I think that sometimes it’s also understanding your emotions isn’t it?
[Jenny] Yeah that’s right. And understanding what you are physically capable of. But also saying, “Okay, it’s alright to ask for help on those days and it’s okay to cancel something. You don’t have to do everything that you’re planning to do.” So just being aware of that, and hooking in to who you are as a person, and becoming aware of what you can manage, and how you can get yourself to a place of, “Okay, well this is what’s happening today. Let’s look at something else for tomorrow.”
[Scott] Thanks for coming in, Jenny