Jenny’s guest today is Brett Farrell, who hosts the regular “Fatherhood” podcast. In this interview he explains an interesting revelation he had during one of his podcast interviews, the question of “how can I best love my wife?”
There aren’t a lot of men’s voices on Treasuring Mothers–after all, this is a podcast primarily for women–but Brett Farrell is an exception. In his own words, “There are lots of manuals and guide books on Fatherhood, but let’s face it, if you’re like me, you’re not going read them.
“I thought the best way to become a better dad was to simply chat with other dads. They may not have all the answers but they do answer some of my questions. In my podcast, I chat with dads of faith at different points of Fatherhood who talk honestly about how they handle this thing called Fatherhood.”
But what Brett hadn’t anticipated was the biblical encouragement for husbands to love their wives. Is that really what makes a good father?
Show Notes: How to Love your Wife
- One of the first guests Brett had on his podcast was Matt Stemm, a vicar friend of his. Matt asked him about the scripture in Ephesians 6:4 where it tells parents not to exasperate their children, and how could fathers do this best? Matt surprised Brett with his reply, which was to go back and read the context of that verse, the bits before it.
- The most important part of family relationships comes when husbands love their wives, as outlined in Ephesians 5:25-33, and the most important thing a husband, and father, can demonstrate to his family is that he loves his wife.
- That’s not only the most important for the wife, but also to show the kids. The fact that Dad loves Mum can bring such a sense of stability in families.
- This one statement had a profound impact on Brett. His first question to himself was, “Do I do this properly? Of course I love my wife. How can I love her better?”
- He says the biggest challenge as a father personally from that time has been not only to be a good husband, but to continually demonstrate his love for his wife to their children.
- How can parents demonstrate love for each other in front of their children? What about engaging in a very long kiss, every so often, in front of the children. Make them cringe!
- Get familiar with the five love languages: physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service. Learn which ones are most important to your wife, and do them. Another great idea is to identify your kids’ love languages as well, and demonstrate those to your wife in front of them.
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