Infant Welfare nurse Jan Murray talks about empowering the new parents in your life without stepping on toes. Sometimes you want so much to step in with advice, but you can be a better support to new mums (and dads) by helping them to be the best parents they can be.

Grandparents empowering parents, Jan Murray

Jan is a grandparent as well as an experienced child health nurse. She has older grandchildren interstate, plus her locally-based daughter has a 2-year-old and a 10-month old. This has given Jan plenty of practice in learning the delicate art of empowering while not taking over in parenting.

Many times you’ll have an opinion on feeding schedules, breast vs bottle, or whether or not immunisations are safe. How do you navigate the minefield of opinion, especially when you would do things differently if it were your child?

Listen to Jan to find out how she does it!

GUEST: Jan Murray
HOST: Jenny Baxter


Show Notes: Grandparents Empowering Parents

  • Parenting decisions are ultimately up to the parents. They have to own the decision themselves, and any of the consequences.
  • Advice should wait until it’s asked for, no matter how hard it can be to hold our tongues.
  • At the end of the day our role as supporting family members is to encourage the parents in doing their job best.
  • Modern-day grandparenting is very different from how things used to be. Technology allows us to be present in the lives of grandchildren even when we don’t live near them physically.
  • Being able to chat with grandchildren (or nieces and nephews) via Skype or FaceTime is another way of supporting their parents. This helps not only by keeping children busy for a little while, but by building long-term loving relationships with them.

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Grandparents Empowering Parents