Samantha Freestone lives in Sydney, where she has a part-time job, two school-aged children, and a podcast (Some Answers). Needless to say, she’s a busy woman most of the time, and struggles–as many of us do these days–with chronic Mum guilt.
Mum guilt seems to be everywhere. We’re all trying to obtain perfection, and look (on the outside at least) like we’ve got it all together. Samantha shares a story about her son, who complained of a sore throat before school. She did all the right things, took his temperature, gave him some Panadol, kept an eye on him before deciding him fit for school that day.
Later that morning, however, when the school called and asked her to come collect him, she felt terrible. “I’m a good mother!” she exclaims, the exasperation evident in her voice. Samantha, like all of us, is juggling not only the weight of her own family and work commitments, but the perceived weight of other people’s expectations and judgements. There’s a hashtag #Mumguilt on social media for a reason!
Does this sound familiar? How on earth do we manage such a load?
Samantha talks about her revelation of letting go, and what it means to look after herself.
Show Notes – Dealing with Mum Guilt
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- Often we feel like we’re trying to obtain perfection, creating a have-it-all-together persona.
- Mum guilt starts, it seems, almost as soon as a baby is born. People have no hesitation in offering their opinions on the way we’re doing things, and often those opinions differ wildly.
- The weight of the judgment of others can be crushing, especially in times of stress like a child screaming on a plane, or having a tantrum in the supermarket.
- Samantha encourages us not to be influenced by other people around you when you’ve made a decision. Sometimes the best thing you can do is simply trust your own instinct.
- Whether it’s working or not working, breast milk or formula, whatever decision you have to make, remember it’s your decision, and nobody else’s place to judge.
- Samantha shares a beautiful analogy of the message you hear in an aeroplane before takeoff: when the oxygen masks come down, fit your own mask first before assisting children. The best thing you can do, as a mother, is look after yourself, whatever that looks like for you. The n you will be in a good place mentally, physically and emotionally, to then care for the others around you.
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