It’s so easy to compare your progress with other mothers. But hey! We’re all on the same side!
It really is a no-brainer: your life is unique. And so is your family. Yet, we have this automatic reaction to compare what we do, and how we do it, with other mothers. Why is that?
Harriet Connor explains why we compare. And offers hope in the form of some great ideas to listen to, empathize with, and support other mothers.
Show Notes: The Comparison Trap
- We have a natural tendency to compare and rank ourselves with others. And this makes it hard to support one another.
- Actually all mothers are just doing their best, often in very difficult circumstances.
- Try not to compare, assume things, and judge others.
- To avoid falling into the comparison trap, have honest conversation with others.
- Have confidence in your own self and the decisions you make about your family.
- Instead of comparing, help others in a genuine way.
- We need to get rid of the idea that we are supermums, and that we don’t need help from others.
- We’ve all got our different circumstances to take into consideration.
- Ask questions about the other mother, and find out her reasoning for whatever action her family takes.
- Have confidence in your own decisions and values.
- If you find yourself tempted to compare, try to respect that people make decisions for important reasons.
- Find mothers you can trust to help you out.
- Have compassion and empathy for other mothers.
- Let’s shift the comparison culture, and be each other’s cheer squad!
- When you feel as though you are falling for the comparison trap, pray for the other mother.
- Prayer is a really good way to remember that others are precious.
Find out more about prayer: Motherhood Life Hack 3: Pray >>>
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